Just a remember.
One of the most useful ways to feel good and happy is to focus on what it's good in your life. I don't know why we have the use of focus on what we don't have (and the neighbour does), we have our life and our situation, somethings are good, somethings are bad, we can choose what we focus on, it's a matter of habit, when we realize focusing on the bad we simply change, stop complaning and begining thanking
To feel thank and remember all the good things than we have and happen to us along the day is one habit that will make you to feel incredibly better.
kisses, have a lovely day
Sunday, September 26, 2010
A five minutes trick:
What we're feeling depend on what we're thinking, this knowledge give us a remarkable control on our emotions if we want. How we can use this.
You can make a list of resources to use when you feel bad.
For example, you can read something light and amusing (I adore Asterix and Obelix). Remember that something on the kind of Ana Frank diary won't make you feel better.
Remember something /somebody nice (for example, my son Diego is very thicklish and his laughthing is really contagious, only remember it makes me to laugh; my husband, lovely man, use to buy me a rose sometimes, I love them, and even if he consider the flowers are something useless he buys them to me because he understand I adore them).
Listen to music something that makes you feel better not worst. (For example, to me there is a song of Mecano (spanish group), it's a salsa music (Bailando Salsa), the letter is very funny and the music is move, I always finish laughing)
Watching something on tv, something that makes you laugh, The bridges of Madison county maybe not a good idea, something more in the line of In and Out, Meet the parents....
If we exposed to something sad we will feel sad, if we exposed to something funny we will feel good. It's interesting to chose what we want to exposed to because if will affect our mood, the kind of people we use to be, if we are always with people pesimist and complaining we will feel that way and will have to strive to feel in another way, if we're always watching on tv bad news and fights, how we will feel....
At least be concious....
What we're feeling depend on what we're thinking, this knowledge give us a remarkable control on our emotions if we want. How we can use this.
You can make a list of resources to use when you feel bad.
For example, you can read something light and amusing (I adore Asterix and Obelix). Remember that something on the kind of Ana Frank diary won't make you feel better.
Remember something /somebody nice (for example, my son Diego is very thicklish and his laughthing is really contagious, only remember it makes me to laugh; my husband, lovely man, use to buy me a rose sometimes, I love them, and even if he consider the flowers are something useless he buys them to me because he understand I adore them).
Listen to music something that makes you feel better not worst. (For example, to me there is a song of Mecano (spanish group), it's a salsa music (Bailando Salsa), the letter is very funny and the music is move, I always finish laughing)
Watching something on tv, something that makes you laugh, The bridges of Madison county maybe not a good idea, something more in the line of In and Out, Meet the parents....
If we exposed to something sad we will feel sad, if we exposed to something funny we will feel good. It's interesting to chose what we want to exposed to because if will affect our mood, the kind of people we use to be, if we are always with people pesimist and complaining we will feel that way and will have to strive to feel in another way, if we're always watching on tv bad news and fights, how we will feel....
At least be concious....
Today, I´m going to copy, I like this letter a lot, I think it can make us to consider, I don´t know the author but it´s bright.
Letter to all the parents of the world:
1- Don't yell me, I respect you less when you do it, you teach me to yell myself and I don't want to do it.
2- Treat me with kindness and cordiality, as you do with your friends, that we´re relatives don't imply we can´t be friends.
3- If I do something wrong, don't ask me why, usually I don´t know
4- Don't lie when I'm around, and don't ask me to lie by you. You make me to lose the faith on what you say and make me to feel bad.
5- When you make a mistake, admit it. I will have a better opinion on you and will show me to admit my own mistakes.
6- Don't compare me with anybody, specially with my brethern. If you make me look better than another, somebody will suffer and ir you make me to look worst, I will suffer.
7- Let me do by myself. If you do the things by me I won´t learn
8- Don´t order me always. If you ask me and don't order, I will make it quickly and I would like it more.
9- Don´t change the opinion so often about what I should do.
10- Fulfills the promises, good and bad, if you promise me a reward give it to me and so if a punishment
11- Try to understand and help me. When I tell you a worry, don´t tell me it's not important... to me it is
12- Don't tell me to do what you don´t. I will learn and do always what you do, even if you don´t tell me. But I won´t do what you tell me to do and you don´t.
13- Don´t give me everything I ask you, sometimes I only ask to know until what point I can take you.
14- Love me and tell me. I like to hear you saying it, even if you think It´s nos necessary.
Fights with a child are sad and not necessary, adults are intelligent enought and can find a way to avoid it.
Letter to all the parents of the world:
1- Don't yell me, I respect you less when you do it, you teach me to yell myself and I don't want to do it.
2- Treat me with kindness and cordiality, as you do with your friends, that we´re relatives don't imply we can´t be friends.
3- If I do something wrong, don't ask me why, usually I don´t know
4- Don't lie when I'm around, and don't ask me to lie by you. You make me to lose the faith on what you say and make me to feel bad.
5- When you make a mistake, admit it. I will have a better opinion on you and will show me to admit my own mistakes.
6- Don't compare me with anybody, specially with my brethern. If you make me look better than another, somebody will suffer and ir you make me to look worst, I will suffer.
7- Let me do by myself. If you do the things by me I won´t learn
8- Don´t order me always. If you ask me and don't order, I will make it quickly and I would like it more.
9- Don´t change the opinion so often about what I should do.
10- Fulfills the promises, good and bad, if you promise me a reward give it to me and so if a punishment
11- Try to understand and help me. When I tell you a worry, don´t tell me it's not important... to me it is
12- Don't tell me to do what you don´t. I will learn and do always what you do, even if you don´t tell me. But I won´t do what you tell me to do and you don´t.
13- Don´t give me everything I ask you, sometimes I only ask to know until what point I can take you.
14- Love me and tell me. I like to hear you saying it, even if you think It´s nos necessary.
Fights with a child are sad and not necessary, adults are intelligent enought and can find a way to avoid it.
Saturday, September 4, 2010
irrational ideas 4
Magnification: Give to much important to the negative aspects of something. It`s very usual, maybe the human being are a little masochistic and as one bad situacion is nos enought bad we make it worst. If you use to be like that remember, if it can be solve, why you worry? and if it can't be solve, then why you worry?
Minimization: Give no important to the positive aspectos of something. Here it comes to my mind the typical reaction when somebody tells us how beautiful is something we're wearing.... oh, no, it's so old, it's 10 years... or something about...(I don't know in another countries but in Spain it is what it usually would happen), the right answer when somebody tells you a flattery is... Thank you!
Minimization: Give no important to the positive aspectos of something. Here it comes to my mind the typical reaction when somebody tells us how beautiful is something we're wearing.... oh, no, it's so old, it's 10 years... or something about...(I don't know in another countries but in Spain it is what it usually would happen), the right answer when somebody tells you a flattery is... Thank you!
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