Focus on what we are ad have

We don't use to value all we have (whether material or not). We spend our lives wanting to get something so when we get it we look for another and so on. If we look back to what we got on life,what we are in all ways, personal, work, friendship, family, material things... we can feel really good about it.
We use to focus on the defects, on what we have not. For example, If you have a husband sensitive, kind, wonderful with you and the children, easy to live with.... you can complain because he is slowly, or because he does not make the things of the house like you would...
Focus on anothers faults or what we have not is a very harmful habit.
With children the same, they behave lovely all day and when are sleepy, tired and behave bad is when you give them attention. We must correct but also it's important we recognize usually the children behave good. When they make something wrong we can correct them but not telling them they are bad because it's not true and harm them (I know what I'm talking about I have two littles ones).
Focus how lovely is your couple and children makes better the every day living. Besides we are not perfect ourselves.
With the material things the same, we focus on places we can't go, things we can't have.... instead of thinking on everything we already have. I'm the first one who would not mind to be outraeously rich but it's not necesary to be happy, there are many studies that show that reached an economical level having more or less money affects little to the happiness. The most of things that makes us enjoy are not expensive or simply free, like chating, laughing, walking, sex, singing, sports, enjoy nature, do something manual, remembering (a travel, situation, movie you liked), imagine, daydreaming, nightdreaming...)
We can habit to valuing ourselves, our life, our relatives, our things, if we discover thinking on what we don't we can change our mind to positive. We can make an action like: In the book "The Secret" (read on anyone owns risk) there is a really intelligence idea. It's called the thanks stone or something similar. You cary a stone or another small object in the pocket, every time your touch it you must think on somethin pleasant to feel grateful. It focus you on positive on a very easy way.
Remember, we feel depending on our thoughts, if you feel bad it's because you're thinking on something that hurts you, you can analize it and sarch for arguments to change them.
What we think is not necesary true and it doesn't define us, it's only a product of our mind. Really sometimes our neurons have nothing else to do than driven us crazy, but we can reason and choose.
I hope it helps you to feel better. A kiss