Here I'm again, looking for the way of thinking that make us to feel better.
Tunnel vision: We consider only a part of the information, the negative. Reality is filtered, only pay attention to lost, rejections, injustice..Skip pleasant and reinforcing aspects. This way of thinking is very usual, you only have to see the television, the journalist in particular must have a course to train it in the university. This particular irrational thought is very dangerous because our happiness depends on how we can realize about the good on our life. We live in the best place in the world with the higher quality of life, the most have a good family, couple, children, friends, a house to live (sure it's beauty and comfortable), a car to travel, nutritive and tasty food.....but what we do... we compare with supermultimillonarios and despite I would not mind to win in the lottery money enought to 8 generations of luxury and fortune, it's clear this is not going to give more happiness than the one I have right now, because the happiness depends on that I accept my life and consider the wonderful things I have on it. Besides we're on the best period of history, imagine to be born on middle ages or ancient Rome....
Overgeneralization: generalize the negative part of an experience.Something like.. I failed this exam I'm not good on study best I quit.
Use Never, Always, all, none...We use habitual this words when we dispute with another, we use to dispute because we feel upset and we want the other to feel as bad as we feel, if we want to solve a problem we sit down and have a conversation, don't feel bad, you were not concius of this, next time you don't have any excuse. Well, when we dispute (to get blood remember) we use this words that manipulate, make feel guilty and show us as victims. When we're alone we can use to feel victims, something like.... none love me (well, anybody can think whatever... but if anybody loves you, something really littel probably you always can try to love yourself)
lots lots of kisses, I will continue....
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