Learning to be happy

The capacity to enjoy life can be learn as nearly anything else. Our brain can be shape all life long.
The search on how the brain works is making us to understand better how we take decisions and how we can use this knowledge to be happy.
Brain is like a net (like fishermen’s), when you sew more and more in one part this makes stronger, this is similar to what it happens in our brain, when you think more in something this thought gets stronger, It´s interesting an article from Lena Jelinek and Steffen Moritz. “Association Splitting”, you can get the manual in this link: http://www.uke.uni-hamburg.de/kliniken/psychiatrie/index_31780.php
Education is very important to develop the skill to be happy. When baby, to be care with love and tenderness is very importatn because it generate a pre schema where new knowledge will be add. We develope a system of beliefs about how we are, how the world is, what we can expect from others and the world, what is good and bad, how to behave…. This schema can be change along the whole life, human beings have capacity of learning all life long.
Why I talk about beliefs? We do because faith, we believe things are on one way and we behave as effect. If you believe that you need to wear red shoes to go to work or something really wrong will happen, would you be able to go to work with white shoes?... we really do this way. To any knowledge association we associate a feeling, here red shoes—work—fear. The story can be easy or not, it depends on what work you have… If your are a clown… or you are a priest….
If we search in our memory we can find beliefs that are little logical (over all in another persons, of course…).
For example, I have two children, full of energy (from always, who sais newborns are not active?), with my expectative and the ones of my mother in love about how much food they need we generate a problem… I consider that they should eat more but… as they were healthy and active I didn´t worry so much, one day I reconsider the expectative because my mother in love went to far, she told me that if I didn´t obligate my older doughter to eat more her stomach would close…. Well, this was too much, my doughter had always be even more than the average on the percentiles so if she was healthy, energy and growing there was no evidence she was not feeding herself enough…my concern should be the quality not the quantity.
To obligate a baby or a child to eat can be a kind of abuse…and our society is very tolerant to it.
How I can learn to be happy? We have to evaluate what we belief in…. the key can be our emotions… when we emotion we get angry, or need to imposition our opinion to another person we should stop and think, why our opinion is better than the other.
To look for arguments against our beliefs can open our mind, to exposition to different ways of thinking…. And not necessary about big things, it can be about our every day life, why we criticize the others, their clothes, their behaviour… to search for information as checked as posible (the science by the moment is the best we have).
The books, news, the programs on tv, radio… are made by persons and no one have the whole truth.
Dogmas exist even in science, we are very passional about our knowledge, we only have to take a look in history and observe how many fights, murders, crimes….. because of ideas, people thinking different things and trying to live in their way… and we keep now on this way… maybe should be better to understand that the most of our ideas are a inheritance from former people
We can have a better control of our life and be more happy if we get more aware why we think the way we do, why we believe something one way… we can understand better another people trying to know where this ideas were coming.

Hope to be of help…a kiss